The OBF Principles Of WELLNESS
• Know your values and live them.
• Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Who is in your circle?
• Weed out things and relationships that do not support you.
• Have what you want AND want what you have.
• Practice gratitude.
• Breath, bounce, sweat and move.
• Eat nature’s food and play natures rules.
• Find activities that give you a sense of purpose and connectedness.
• Align your life actions to your life’s purpose.
PRINCIPLE 1 – Know your values and live them
As Mahatma Ghandi said, “Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.”
I am a values based coach. I coach and live through the values of respect, honesty, gratitude, commitment and self-development. It’s imperative that we know our core values. Knowing what matters to you most gives you a level of self-awareness important to your sport, coaching, work, and life in general.
Many people are disconnected from their values. Either they are not clear on their values or they operate, often unknowingly, in ways that don’t align with them.
My goal is to help people get in touch with their core values. When they gain that clarity and sense of purpose, s everything becomes easier: making decisions, choosing next steps, recognizing sooner when they’re off-track. The confidence and fulfilment that come with living and working in alignment with their values allows them to flourish with meaning and purpose.
Many claim to understand their own values, but I maintain you don’t really know them until you have:
1. Articulated them clearly in writing.
2. Tested them through daily decision-making. The image above its a picture of the OBF values on our gym wall, every day we live and coach through the values outlined above.
Defining Your Core Values
STEP 1 –
Write down times of your greatest happiness and sadness. Recall the peaks and valleys within your experiences, making note of the details and emotions surrounding each memory. Only include memories that had the most impact on your life and sense of well-being rather than those that earned you the most praise or recognition from others.
• For example, a time of great happiness might be when you finally achieved something you worked really hard for or a moment of bliss with a loved family member.
• Look for the themes that run through your most charged memories, good and bad.
Narrow + Walk + Narrow: Draw values from your answers to step 1. In the beginning you will have a large list of values. Narrow the list down to 15 or so top values, then step away for a while; I encourage you to go for a walk at this time. Then come back with fresh eyes and can hone in on their core values – a powerful and liberating experience.
The initial list might look like this…
Tradition – Innovation – Recognition – Patience – Passion – Generosity – Accountability – Loyalty Initiative – Cooperation – Competition – Openness/directness- Efficiency – Material – Possessions Fun & Enjoyment – Honesty – Independence – Family – Reputation – Modesty – Security Relationships -Risk-taking
It might end up like this
Family – Happiness – Honesty – Humility – Self accountability – Respect
Step 3 –
Define in your words what each value looks like and what it means to you. This is what honesty means to me.
The Most honest person in the room is the most powerful person in the room.
Honesty defines you as a person. It underlines your relationships and belief systems.
Honesty of effort is fulfilment beyond explanation. Unfortunately so many people will never experience this bliss.
Honesty is an active component of almost every other core value in OBF. Without honestly, commitment, perseverance, trust and growth from failure become diluted and compromised.
Honestly trumps talent,
Honesty defeats fear and inspires action. Its absence creates uncertainly, shame and greed.
Its presence is the difference between a head held high or a head hung low.
It’s found in reps , words and actions, its more powerful than the phone or computer your read this post from, no money can buy it or person can retrieve it when its lost so cherish it as if it was the most valuable position you have.
Adrian O Brien
OBF Tip: It’s an evolving process!!
Values are usually fairly stable, yet they don’t have strict limits or boundaries. Also, as you move through life, your values may change. For example, when you start your career, success – measured by money and status – might be a top priority. But after you have a family, work-life balance may be what you value more.
As your definition of success changes, so do your personal values. This is why keeping in touch with your values is a lifelong exercise. You should continuously revisit this, especially if you start to feel unbalanced… and you can’t quite figure out why.
The key is bringing the words to life and giving them real meaning and relevance in your actions, standards and behaviours every day.
Finally , find time to check in and journal about how you typically enact these values. Journaling helps reinforce your actions and desires thus allowing you time to reflect, grow and evolve.