The OBF principles of Wellness – No 4 – Have what you want and want what you have.
The OBF Principles Of WELLNESS
• Know your values and live them.
• Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Who is in your circle?
• Weed out actions and relationships that do not support you.
• Have what you want AND want what you have.
• Practice gratitude.
• Breath, bounce, sweat and move.
• Eat nature’s food and play natures rules.
• Find activities that give you a sense of purpose and connectedness.
• Align your life actions to your life’s purpose.
Principle 4 • Have what you want and want what you have.
21st century living promotes instant gratification, everything from fast fashion, social media, tinder, and consumerism to name a few. The sad truth is that instant gratification has left the whole world feeling like shit, chasing the next dopamine hit so they can feel good about themselves for a brief period of time. People are chasing the approval of others and their quest to fit in and belong results in a life of insecurity and disappointment. There is a lack of fulfilment in their actions.
The truth is that material success can only make you happy if you are already happy. True happiness comes from a place far beyond fashion, money or titles, it comes from a place of self-actualisation a place of personal growth and fulfilment.
What are the characteristics of self-actualisation?
• Keen sense of reality – aware of real situations – objective judgement, rather than subjective.
• See problems in terms of challenges and situations requiring solutions, rather than see problems as personal complaints or excuses.
• Need for privacy and comfortable being alone.
• Reliant on own experiences and judgement – independent – not reliant on culture and environment to form opinions and views.
• Not susceptible to social pressures – non-conformist.
• Democratic, fair and non-discriminating – embracing and enjoying all cultures, races and individual styles.
• Socially compassionate – possessing humanity.
• Accepting others as they are and not trying to change people.
• Comfortable with oneself – despite any unconventional tendencies.
• A few close intimate friends rather than many surface relationships.
“Success without fulfilment is failure”.
So how do we find fulfilment?
There are universal elements of fulfilment and the number one element is that we must grow. There is no drug in the world more addictive than the drug of “getting better”. If we don’t grow, we won’t be fulfilled. The mantra of “better than yesterday “will serve humanity better than the mantra of “you only live once”.
The second element is that you must contribute beyond yourself. If our goals only serve ourselves, then achieving our goals will only make us happy for a moment. But if your mission is to serve others, then not only will you leave a legacy of giving, but you will be more fulfilled in life.
The point is this: What will make you fulfilled is to grow and to give.